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Dividing The Holidays, For Couples



The holidays are here, I bet you and your significant other are busier than ever! Gift buying, work, planning a wedding perhaps, and everyday life. Thoughts about the actual holiday, day, gets pushed aside. So, let’s stop for a moment and think about the actual day of Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Hanukkah. Whose family will you be spending the day or evening with? How do you equally and fairy divide your time? This is an important decision and will more than likely set the tone of all future holiday plans, especially when kids come into the picture. You each love your family and care about the other’s so, the last thing you want to do is hurt someone feelings. There are a few options that we think could work for you:

  • Rotating holidays, Christmas with theirs and Thanksgiving with yours. Then the following year reverse.
  • Spend half the day with each other’s families, morning and afternoon with theirs, then late afternoon and evening with yours.
  • For Christmas you could do Christmas Eve with theirs, and Christmas day with yours.

My family has developed a routine for Christmas, our family gets together Christmas Eve. We have dinner, gifts, and family time. Then, on Christmas day, everyone who is married goes to their spouse’s house. We all feel this is fair, and we enjoy our time together. As for Thanksgiving we bounce around between families and friends.

Some of the things to keep in mind when choosing how to divide your time would include; what family is more involved with that specific holiday? Are there important traditions that are carried on by one family, and you would like to include those traditions to your family? Distance involved and availability of time off.

The holidays are a joyous time and can at times be a little stressful. However, keep in mind the reason you are celebrating; spending time with those you love, passing on traditions, celebrating your beliefs, and enjoying the season. As we get closer to the day remember, you can be involved throughout the month with each other’s families too. Shopping together, small get to gather’s, and helping with prepping for the season. By doing this, it feels like everyone has been getting an equal dose of family time. Most importantly think about each other and what is important to one another, be thoughtful and learn to compromise. Compromising after all is one of the biggest parts about being married.

As the holiday season in full swing we would like to take a minute and wish you all a happy and healthy holiday. We look forward to the New Year and all the new engagements to come.


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